Jenn & Trin will be calling in on November 19th at 10:00am (PST)
Jenn and Trin work at Cards Against Humanity and host Friendshipping, a weekly podcast where they answer tricky questions about friendship and etiquette surrounding relationships. In 2016, they raised 314% of their initial goal on a Kickstarter campaign for Friendship Postcards, which began shipping in August 2017.
Have a question for Jenn & Trin? Leave it in the comments below.
How do you recommend making friends at College?
Is there any chance or possibility the friendship postcards will be available to buy or something? I live in the UK so didn’t back the kickstarter but am very interested in them!
first off, thank you. I don’t want to go into too much detail in this format, but after starting to listen to you after your call-in last year, your podcast improved my friendship game so much and so quickly that it made some of my friends suspicious. And now, my question itself.
I have a friend that is in dire financial straits right now. While I am more than happy to help out, essentially she takes half my paycheck and I do not make that much. I am currently living at home with my parents, so I don’t have to worry about rent, but helping her means I may not be able to move out, and I do turn 30 this week. While I need to take care of myself, I may be the only one keeping her alive while she couchsurfs and tries to put her life back on track. How do I help her while still ensuring I am not LIVING for her?
I was introduced to you guys by a retweet from Andrew (who by the time you answer this just finished his shift) because you were looking for a photographer for a impromptu gamer-walk during Pax South. Easily the highlight of my first pax!
Anyway question time. Due circumstances out of my control, I am taking a masters that I’m not enjoying too much. I only got a semester and a half to go, but I cannot relate to the people I’m with. I hang out with them, and except for maybe a couple, I’m really discouraged to maintain the friendship because after we all graduate I really doubt we will keep in touch. It just feels like a time I gotta get through.
However, at the same time, it feels really lonely. Most of my friends are long distance, and I keep in touch online. I just feel like I’m in some sort of in-between where I’m not interested on investing time with people at school because I want to make friends at ideally a full-time job I acquire, or wherever the future takes me.
Your thoughts?
How might one work through varied “maintenance” levels of friendship in their circle? I find myself a bit worried to expand mine, as I consider myself very low-maintenance, and fear I won’t be a good friend to those requiring a bit more communication and “hang-outs”.
CAH question: what is the card or joke you are most disappointed never made it into a deck?
What pieces of advice that you’ve given as part of your podcast are hardest to live by? What pieces of advice do you think have been the “best”?
I just want Trin to know, the DnD character I named after her now has the power to destroy the world with their traditional drum.
I recently entered into a polyamorous relationship – any tips for how to be better friends/more friendly with your partner’s partners?
How do friendship?
Love the podcast, definitely has made me a better friend, and that’s not something that comes easily to me. Thanks.
Dear Jenn & Trin,
A couple in our circle of friends has an 8 year old son; they are the only pair in our circle that has a child. When we host get togethers for the whole group they usually bring their son along because babysitters are expensive. Their son is obsessed with my husband and monopolizes him for the entire evening every time. My husband is good with kids and usually doesn’t mind giving the couple a break from the duties of childcare, but he also does not want to be responsible for their son every time they come over. Is there a classy way to schedule some “adult only” gatherings without excluding them due to financial burdens of childcare? Or is there another, better way to handle this situation?
Hi, love your podcast, I found it as Desert Bus last year and I listen now every week!
I have a question about having friends online. I have a lot of friends that I see once or twice a year at conventions, but I only communicate with in a group chat otherwise. Do you have any advice on being a good friend online?
I find myself overly worried about my freinds, especially when they’re going through hard times or bottling up their issues. Its hard for me to determine what’s pushing to much and what’s actually helpful sometimes. Any advice?
Are fish tacos, real tacos?
Is Tom the best Tractor boi, or are they in fact the greatest tractor boi?
Jenn and Trin, your position on “Friendship” seems to be solid… but what’s your position on “Magic”?
How do adults make friends?
My question would have simply been a less precise ramble similar to Kevmanes from above. I look forward to hearing you response to his question, as it will also answer my question.
I had someone who was a friend blacklist me over a minor game dispute a few years ago, harming my relationships with any friends we shared in common since we could no longer all hang out at the same time and they also feared blacklisting from this person. I was pretty much excluded from a bunch of activities even though my friends claimed to side with me in it all. Recently they have unblacklisted me due to wanting to play a newer game with our shared group, but has done so with no apology to the past. I’m left feeling anxious and uncomfortable, always worrying that the past will repeat since they do still have a short fuse. Having to constantly walk on eggshells while hanging out as a group is far from comfortable. Any suggestions?
How do you end a friendship without hurting the former friend?
Do you have any suggestions for free or very cheap presents for the holidays? I just moved from the Midwest to the PNW and I’m in grad school so funds are really tight right now, but I care about all my friends and want to express how much I appreciate their emotional support while I’m away.
what If my best freind is dating my crush and she doesnt like him as much any more but I dont want to ruin my and her freindship with him
Not getting too into the specifics regarding the current state of the world. How do you maintain a positive tone in friendships when the news of the world is so negative?
Asking for a dear friend. She and her fried went up to visit a town for an event, where she didn’t know anyone really. She got an anxiety attack, but her friend left her alone because she felt “she deserved to have some fun”, even though she knew about the anxiety issues. This has really affected the relationship afterwards. What do?
Dear Jen and Trin, I have been through some hard times including brain cancer, and these have made such a huge impact in my life that at times it is all that I can think to talk about, what should I do?
What advice would you give to someone who is very introverted to make friends?
I just started a job as a student at a law firm in a small city. I’m frequently on the opposite side of legal disputes with friends and classmates. We’re all pretty understanding of our situations, but it still makes parties and hanging out awkward. Any suggestions as to how to make sure I don’t lose these relationships?
A few years ago I went through a bad breakup. Long story, won’t bore you with it here, but a big part of the reason it hurt so much was that she was my best friend as well.
Last week she contacted me out of the blue wanting to apologize for the way she had ended things and was hoping that we could repair our friendship.
We have good conversations and it feels like old times, but I’m also having romantic feelings for her again and us getting back together is kinda impossible now since we live several states away and she’s seeing someone else.
I don’t want to lose my friend again, but I also don’t want to be hurt again. Do you have any advice on how I can better address those romantic feelings so I don’t wind up hurting us both?
Things between me and a friend are almost always have an undertone on stress on both our parts since we seem to approach things from fundamentally approach to things. As he put it, he sometimes feels like he is walking on eggshells around me trying to avoid certain topics because I’m kind of a naturally moody person. On the other hand, I feel the same way towards him, I feel like I have to careful because he doesn’t understand how I can be so reserved towards everything (I’m an introvert and he is an extrovert) because he keeps approaching situations as if he knows the right answer where I feel like they are the right answer for him and then doesn’t really listen to me when I try to explain why it’s not the right answer for me. Sometimes it feels like the relationship adds more stress than it relieves. We both seem to think the relationship is worth it though but I think we could use some guidance. Can we fix this or should we maintain a more distant relationship?
I’m frequently voluntold what cosplays I’ll be doing with my (long distance) friend, and I enjoy cosplaying with her when we’re actually doing it but I don’t feel actually interested in the characters and like my end product isn’t something I’m happy with. How can I tell her to step off/that I want to cosplay on my own when the only time we can really hang out is at cons without breaking the friendship entirely?
Hi Jenn & Trin! You two are wonderful and I’m so glad you do everything you do. Your sincerity and snark makes the world a measurably better place.
Friendship question: A couple years ago I cut ties with a friend of ~6 years due to abusive behavior that I witnessed, and a refusal to acknowledge or take responsibility for it. However, many of my other friends in that social circle are still friends with this person. They know generally that “some bad stuff” happened, and I’ve made them aware that I can’t really be around the person at events and such, but do you have any other advice for keeping connected to these other friends that I value and care about?
Non-Friendship(?) question: I know from Twitter that WoW was a big thing for Trin back in the day, and that she’s excited for classic, but was there ever a big MMO / social game / other such analogue that had a big impact on Jenn?
Heya!
I am part of a group of friends that meet up to play board games. As a quiet and generally reclusive person this regular meeeting is my one big social event each week. I don’t really know any of them outside of gaming though and I often feel they get frustrated with me as I almost always win the games we play. It’s awkward for me to talk with them about how they can enjoy the games more as I often run into a “you don’t know what it’s like to always lose” response. I feel like I need to make sure they enjoy these meet ups as much as I do but I’m worried that speaking up might cause arguments or disagreements and I really don’t want these meetings to end, they help me get through the week.
Sorry if I’m a bit rambley.
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